Last Updated on January 24, 2022 by Guillermina
Today, we’re going to be looking at how to tell he’s going to propose. And the signs and hints your boyfriend may give when he’s on the road to making his grand proposal. But what should you be looking out for? Can you really tell when he’s about to pop the question? Let’s take a closer look.
Can You Tell When A Man Is Going To Propose?
Let’s be honest, we can never truly know when a man is going to propose, as every man will respond in different ways to the build-up of the proposal. But there are subtle hints and signs you may want to look out for and start preparing for your perhaps imminent engagement.
How Soon Is Too Soon To Propose?
I don’t believe it is ever too soon to propose. While your family and friends may not agree with the proposal, it’s essentially when feels right for the couple. I remember when I and my husband got engaged we’d been together a year and had been living together for 6 months – everyone thought it was too soon. But when you know, you know. And almost 6 years of marriage later, we’re still in a happy marriage.
It’s important that you’re both on the same wavelength, and at least discuss marriage in some way before you propose, as marriage may not be something your partner wants. But as long as you both feel ready, that’s all that matters. Whether that’s two years down the line or two months!
Signs He Will Propose In The Future
There are some signs to look out for that may mean he’s about to propose. Let’s take a look!
Tightening the Budget
If your partner suggests out of the blue that he’s on a tighter budget than usual, or spending less money than he usually would – that may mean a proposal is on the way. Engagement rings can be incredibly expensive, so it could mean he’s saving up for the ring of your dreams.
Becoming More Interested in Jewellery
Is he suddenly asking for your ring size? Or asking if you like silver or gold? Or wondering if you like diamonds or another gemstone? It may just mean he’s buying a piece of jewelry for your birthday or Christmas…or it may mean he’s getting ready to pop the question!
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Hanging Out with Your Family Without You
Is he pulling family members inside and having secretive chats? Or going out for a coffee on his lunch break with your mum? Or asking for family’s phone numbers? If this is something he wouldn’t usually do, he may be looking for information on how to make the proposal as perfect as possible, or even asking for permission!
More Conscious of Plans
Is he asking what you’re doing months in advance? Or telling you to keep a particular day or weekend free? While he could just be planning for some quality time together, he may also be organizing a moment you’ll likely never forget.
Planning a Surprise Vacation/Weekend Break
Is he suddenly whisking you away for the weekend on a surprise trip? This is one of the telltale signs that something exciting is about to happen. More often than not, if it’s a surprise vacation – it may end with an engagement!
Talking About Marriage More
Is marriage being mentioned more than usual? Or have you just had your first serious chat about whether marriage is something you’re open to? While the proposal may not be in the imminent future – it’s definitely on his mind, and could be on its way soon.
Suggesting You Have a “Pamper” Day
Most men know that getting that perfect engagement ring shot is important. So he may tell you to go and “treat yourself”, “have a spa day”, “get your hair and nails done”. If he’s suggesting you do any of those things, you may have a shiny ring on your finger within the next few days.
Questions About the Future
If your future is becoming increasingly important to him, engagement may be on the cards. If he’s asking questions like:
- Where do you see us in 5 years?
- Do you want to have children in the future?
- How did you like ____’s wedding?
- Do you think we’ll spend the rest of our lives together?
then he clearly sees a future with you and hopes you feel the same way too. A proposal certainly won’t be far behind these questions – as long as you’re answering with positive responses, of course.
How A Man Acts Before He Proposes
Let’s be honest, it’s impossible to predict how every man acts before he proposes – because everyone is different. But usually, you will notice at least some change in your man’s behavior in the lead-up to the proposal. Some men may become more needy or anxious. Others may even become agitated and irritable.
Remember, this is a terrifying moment for him, as he plucks up the courage to ask you to spend the rest of his life with him. So if you notice his general attitude change, alongside any of the signs above – he may be about to propose, so you may want to cut him some slack!
While most men will try for the element of surprise, it’s likely you’ll have some kind of “gut feeling” when it’s about to happen. Whether that be a few weeks before, or a few hours before – you’ll just know. I didn’t think I would with my engagement and I was looking for signs everywhere, but it turned out my instinct was the best sign to follow – and I was correct!
If you’re now excited about proposals and want to look at the cutest engagement ideas, be sure to check out this post from The Knot on 66 Proposal Ideas. It’s super cute!
I hope this has helped to give an idea on how to tell if he’s going to propose. Do you have any other signs? Let me know in the comments below!